Why leaving a hyperfocus can feel impossible

When your child is deep in hyperfocus, whether it's playing a favourite game, researching a subject of interest or watching a TV programme, encouraging them to change focus can feel impossible.

Hyperfocus isn't just "being really into something." For ADHD brains, it's an intense state where their attention locks on, and shifting gears requires genuine neurological effort. Abruptly interrupting can trigger meltdowns, tears, or anger. This is not because they're being defiant, but because their brain needs time to disengage.

Give advance warnings at intervals: "We're leaving in 15 minutes... now 10... now 5." This gives their brain multiple chances to begin the transition process.

To give your child autonomy, the use of timers gives them independence as well as having a visual representation of the time. This allows them to be mentally prepared rather than being surprised.

Reminding them that they can return back to the activity at a defined point can also help.

Connect the next activity to their interests when possible: "After homework, you'll have time to get back to your game."

Remember, hyperfocus is both a challenge and a strength. With patience and the right strategies, you can help your child harness this incredible ability while learning to navigate transitions more smoothly.